Learning how to approach women doesn’t have to be difficult. However I know most men feel a lot of fear or “approach anxiety” when it comes to approaching women and putting themselves out there. I know because I was one of these men and I was absolutely terrified about walking up to a stranger and starting a conversation.
I believe the scariest part of approaching a woman is knowing what to say. Pretty much we need to know how to open a conversation without looking like a dumbass. It’s also important that we leave as little room for rejection as possible by learning to approach the right way.
The First Step When Approaching Women: The Opener
So the first thing we need is what’s called an “opener.” The job of an opener is simple… it opens the conversation. Here are some example openers that don’t require a ton of confidence to try:
- “Hi, I need a woman’s opinion on something”
- “So how do you all know each other?”
- “I can only stay a minute, because I’ve got to get back to my friends but…”
The Second Step When Approaching Women: The Conversation
Your opener then needs to segue into a conversation. Personally I like asking for opinions as it naturally builds a conversation. So you might say something like “Hi, I need a woman’s opinion on something” and then follow up with:
- “Would you read your boyfriend’s email if you thought he was cheating on you?”
- “Is it weird to keep a box of your ex-girlfriend’s stuff around even when you’re in a new relationship?”
As you get responses you can tell the story behind why you’re asking for example:
“My friend Alex thought his girlfriend was cheating on him and she left her email open on his computer one day. So he thought he’d take a quick peak and actually found these emails from another guy. But when he confronted her about it she was got all angry at him for invading her privacy… who do you think is right?”
“My friend Terry just started dating this new girl and she wants him to throw away the box with all the stuff his ex-girlfriend gave him. But that box contains memories from his life so he doesn’t want to throw it away… is that weird to you?”
These will open up all sorts of questions from the women you’re approaching and you should find yourself in a good conversation. Women love to talk about relationships and social dynamics so you’ll be amazed at the response you get. This is the first step to dating and starting a relationship so it’s time to go practice.
The Only Real Way To Learn How To Approach Women Is To Practice
So go out in public whether it’s in a bar or somewhere else like a supermarket, cafe, bookstore etc and just try it out. You don’t need to leave with a phone number or anything you just need to practice approaching women without fear. When you want to end the conversation you can just say “thanks for your help and walk away” or ask for her phone number… it’s completely up to you.