Learning how to flirt with women can be a little daunting sometimes because we don’t know what we’re meant to be doing. But you don’t need to worry because flirting is simply about having a conversation while building sexual tension. This makes the difference between having a conversation with a friend and actually flirting.
The objective of flirting is to show that we’re interested in a woman without being too overt about it. Flirting is an art form and develops over time but these tips will start you down the right path. As we flirt we also want to “kino escalate” which is a fancy way of saying touch the women while moving towards more sexual behavior like kissing and more.
The basics of kino escalation
For some idea of what this means it might go a little something like this…
- We start out by taking a woman’s hand to play pea knuckle with her
- Then we take her hand and lead her to another location
- Then we touch her arm as we talk to her
- Then we put our arm around her shoulder in a friendly way
- Next we brush her hair out of her face
- Finally we lean in a kiss her
At all these stages we’re looking for “compliance” from the woman. If she seems uncomfortable when you touch her arm then you haven’t built enough rapport and need to do this before you can continue. Flirting is simply a social dance where both parties know what’s going on but no one says it out loud.
You also flirt by what you say and this is a very important part of the interaction…
Bust her balls, call her out on her shit and generally poke light hearted fun at her. When you have enough rapport you can push this quite far and it should be a fun process. Think about how you used to (or still do) tease your bratty little sister and go from there.
For example if she says she’s having a bad hair day say something like “Yeah I didn’t want to say anything…” This is completely opposite to what most guys will do as they croon something like “Oh no you look beautiful” blah blah blah. By being different and teasing her you’ll create amazing sexual tension.
Use innuendo and misunderstanding
An obvious and powerful way of creating sexual tension is bringing sexual innuendos into the conversation. This shouldn’t be hard as we’re guys and it’s easy to find simple things to turn sexual. As a great example I just used the words “hard” and “easy” in the last sentence… gold!
It’s also great to innocently misunderstand what she’s saying. So if she says “Would you like to buy me a drink?” you simply respond with “You want to buy me a drink? Ok I guess but I hope you’re not trying to get me drunk and take advantage of me.”
I think a nice general rule for flirting is doing the opposite of what most guys do. Instead of kissing a woman’s ass you need to be a challenge. Instead of endlessly complimenting her you tease her about her appearance.
As I said before flirting is an art form and learning how to flirt with women is just a matter of putting yourself out there and seeing what happens. You’ll quickly find out what gets good responses and what bombs. The question is whether it’s what you said/did or is it because you haven’t generated attraction at the subconscious level?
The important thing is to have fun with it and take a woman’s reaction to you as a grain of salt. The great “pick up artists” aren’t the ones who never fail to seduce a woman. They’re the ones who realize that there’s plenty of woman in the world and they can generate sexual tension with a large percentage of them.